Monday, May 6, 2013

What in the world?

Sometimes y'all, I just don't get people. I suppose we're not supposed to, but I'm not all that complicated or complex. At least I don't think so.

I'm a mother. I'm a woman. I'm sure there's more, but those are my top two for now ... till I write more. ;)
(I like long walks on the beach, I long for a vacation, I long for a clean house, I like too many kinds of crafty projects ... )

So as a mother - I have goals and ambitions - for my Peanut. I want to see her grow into a responsible young woman. I want her to be strong, independent, empathetic, kind, considerate, compassionate, loving, responsible, and smart. I'm sure there are more things I want for her but that's a good list to start with right? I feel like that's my job - to teach her those things. To correct her when she missteps but to help her see the why of the correction, and how the changes will affect her or others around her.

Her father and I are not together anymore. I don't agree with some of his parenting styles or ideas, but I choose my battles. As long as my child is safe and being cared for, I don't feel I have a say in what happens at his house. He might not believe it but I really do choose my battles. The things I need to engage on, I do. Otherwise, I let that shit go. Why let it eat me up?  

"For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind." Ralph Waldo Emerson

Don't get me wrong - because there are some things that PISS ME OFF!!! But I evaluate ... will me saying anything cause any change (normally not) so why waste my energy? One foot in front of the other, keep moving forward...

But some parents can't seem to do this, and I can't understand why. I don't get why parents would choose to play mind games with their children, instead of encouraging them to become better human beings. That saying about wanting more for your children than you have or had - doesn't seem to apply to them. And I don't get it.

Anyone out there get it? Can you splain it to me? Please?


Dyanne @ I Want Backsies said...

I wish I knew. I teach preschool and have a little guy whose parents are bitterly divorced. BITTERLY. They barely speak to each other. They withhold information from each other. And he's just 4! Imagine next year (and the years after) when he goes to real school. I want to bash their heads together and tell them to quit trying to hurt each other and think about this precious kid they made and quit treating him like a game piece. Okay, off my soapbox. Keep putting one foot in front of the other!

Writers_block said...

It's definitely not always easy. We are by no means cordial or buddy-buddy. Actually we rarely speak to one another but it works for us, most of the time.

That being said, I may get angry or upset at something he does but I don't talk to her about it. She doesn't need all that noise. She has plenty to deal with being a teenage girl!

Hopefully that couple works it out and puts the kidlet ahead of their anger.